Lindsey Nelson (Jordan’s friend) came over last night. I was up 3 hours in the middle of the night trying to figure out if the girls were up to something. Can you say fear? Jordan had family guy out and tried to hide it when I cam down around 1:30am.
She is not showing the qualities of one who will honor their parents.
We had a discussion on texting. Laura and I had agreed to 1,000 texts per month. Laura was to talk to Jordan. That got confused and when I mentioned it, things began to unravel. Well, I find that she does this to get her way – that’s manipulation.
Laura has an ultra-strongarm approach, and there is fruit. At the same time, I want to reinforce that she is loved and try to give her a piece of defining solutions like taught in Love and Logic. So, Jordan started her normal negotiating. She wanted 1,000 sent texts rather than total. I talked through ti with her and then spoke to Laura about it. I am thinking that for Jordan to go from 5-6k texts sent down to 1k is an 80% drop. I like that to progress.
But, as I told Jordan if she goes over, the texting goes for a month plus whatever time is remaining. She agreed, so I wrote down the terms and had her sign it. This is about self control and teaching responsibility. Am I being a weenie? God, I hope not. But, I figure that Jordan having a voice gives her ownership. That is more compelling than simply living the law.
If she goes over, the privilege is lost, and she had a part in authoring the plan. It is “our” plan rather than just Laura and I.
Will it work? We shall see.
God is teaching me to war. And, He is my warrior. Just dont fear. He does the rest.