He and i have had conversations about that exactly. i told him that Burt and i both felt like it was our fault and that that was Satan telling me a lie. it was hard for me as a child to reconcile even though grownups(my Mom mostly) kept reassuring us that it was in no way our fault. We felt like if we had not been so disruptive, loud, disobedient, argumentative and so on that they would not be mad at each other. What i didn’t tell him but i now understand is this continued as they fought about arrangements to drop us off and pick us up. This was due to “the other woman’s presence”. It made my mother insane and Helen was to untrusting of my dad (understandably so) so she would’t let my dad come to our house alone with us. It is easy to see from all of that how I decided it was best if I just didn’t make waves and just accepted whatever came my way instead of asking for what I needed. In our case I think it would be wise to always consider what is best for them and keep our desires out of it. Jack could call you every night at 8:45 or whatever tiem you choose with him. Jordan is not that big of a problem because she stays up a lot later. I will let you just handle it how ever you want to and i will handle my end.
On Wed, Apr 2, 2008 at 7:47 AM, John Stein <John.Stein@emeraldsoftwaregroup.com> wrote:
In some way or another, I sense that Jack is really feeling the weight of our split. He often will come to me (like last night when he overheard us talking about calling late at night) and wanted to tell me how it’s not my fault. He felt responsible for that in a bad kind of way. On one hand, you have to love how he owns up to his junk. On the other hand, we should make certain that he doesn’t come into the lie that he is responsible for our split, which is where the devil might want to take him. Please encourage him in this and reassure him. LOVE