From unforgiveness and pain for both to forgiveness but judgment where sins are retained and Satan has legal right to wreak havoc to mercy because mercy triumphs over judgment and sins are forgiven and kindness leads to repentance and love covers. This is maturity. This gives room for love. This is love. Love covers.
Three stages: child, youth and adult.
The child is hurt and looks to hurt. Forgiveness is the lesson.
The youth is hurt but releases forgiveness. He judges his brother but lets him go.
The adult realizes the nature of sin and cries out for mercy for his offender.
1 John 2
12 I am writing to you, little children, because your sins have been forgiven you for His name’s sake. 13 I am writing to you, fathers, because you know Him who has been from the beginning. I am writing to you, young men, because you have overcome the evil one. I have written to you, children, because you know the Father. 14 I have written to you, fathers, because you know Him who has been from the beginning. I have written to you, young men, because you are strong, and the word of God abides in you, and you have overcome the evil one.